I met my girlfriend when she facebooked me and asked about the rumors of me being transgender. As we talked more and more she said she wouldnt mind dating a transgender person if I was interested so we got to know one another and she invited me to Indy Pagan Day where her coven was putting on a ritual. It sounded like a good time and I was exploring alternate religions so I went out and attended the event and also attended her ritual. I enjoyed the pomp and circumstance of the ritual coming from a Catholic background and it increased my interest in pagan holidays and esbats. We talked later and I let her know I would be willing to attend another ritual as they did most of their rituals publicly if her.
The next open ritual that they had was Samain and I was hooked, we attended the ritual I enjoyed myself as far as the learning process went and enjoyed the other people in the group. After this ritual though things started going south for me and the girlfriend and we broke up right before Yule and because of this I only attended one ritual with her coven. At the time I was hoping to continue the process with her coven but as the timed passed I saw that this was not going to be possible because of the drama.
This caused me to explore other options for my spirituality and I found an online coven to belong to for my education and a guild in a different city for my socialization. I still do almost nothing witchy in Indianapolis, Indiana because I do not want to run the chance of running into my ex girlfriend.
I have written before on the differences between a guild and a coven and would be more than willing to answer questions in either area. I will also take question on my transgender journey. Hope everyone has a wonderful day, sun has come out here, and it is fairly warm for the end of December
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Well everyone its Dawn of the day again, Last time we spoke we talked about the difference between a guild and a coven as I have belonged to both. Today I thought I would take a different look and talk about some of my first steps on the path.
One of the reasons I was drawn to the pagan path in my early exploration was that I was not happy with the mainline religions and the discrimination they showed to the LGBT community. I tried to live my life correctly by Christian standards for 45 years belonging to their religions, worshiping as they wanted, and even buying in that being trans was not wrong as long as I did not dress in the clothes that I found were most comfortable.
When i reached about 45 i started my “mid life crisis” where I wanted to start dressing more in the clothes that I found proper and was in such a place that I was willing to give up family, friends, social organizations, religion and even my job as a high school teacher. The other choice for this though was death, I had already picked out the where and how I just had to decide the when.
About this time two things happened just about in unison, one was that I decided to go see a therapist to determine exactly what i was, within two appointments I was diagnosed as trans and told I could start hormone replacement as soon as i wanted. The second was that I meet a witch and lover and with her help we started exploring the pagan/wiccan path.
Even though the relationship ended badly and I do not care to ever see her again she did show me a religion that was accepting of everyone and one that I did not have to pretend to be someone else for. Through her guidance she put me on the first steps of my wiccan path which has increased my knowledge of the gods and and how to better work with the goddess as I move down my path of life.
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Lady B wanted me to spend some time musing about my early path on coven life. I tried to tell her its all early as I have only been on the path for 2 years, lol. Like usual though she didnt listen and in her own way she said “get to writing lady, before i make this one of your required lessons,” lol
Right now i belong to 2 pagan organization one is the coven with lady B and the other is a Guild which is based in Lafayette Indiana. I actually joined the coven first and then about 2 months later joined the guild. The coven is where i get my learning and the wiccan path is my chosen path. The coven is stricter with how rituals are done and is more systematic with the calling of quarters and watch towers and the inviting of deity’s into the circle. I have also been to a face to face coven and they are even more strict but thats for another post. The coven also does classes in a more organized manner with everything written out and the lessons that build on one another.
So if the coven is my chosen path why u might ask did i decide to join a guild also, It was for the face to face conversation and worshiping. It was for the interaction with members and helping the members through life troubles, helping to lead and education pagans on the wiccan path. The guild is made up of all types of pagans, and most are walking their path solo or maybe with just one or two other people. The rituals are very general bc of this, ie we dont have enough say wiccans to celebrate only with a wiccan ritual so we will generalize the ritual taking bits from many different paths. This is the same with the lessons, in the guild. These lessons are called study sessions, and they can be about almost anything pagan and its what the priestess thinks you are in need of at this time. It can be your path or it can be someone elses path. The guild makes sure you are well rounded in many paths so you can help the other members who are struggling.
So in conclusion I feel a witch needs to be well rounded and know not only the path that they are on but also bits of other paths bc somewhere down the road it may become important not only to you but to a friend or neighbor. Also face to face worship is important and the talking and discussing different thoughts and ideas over a cup of coffee can be very enlightening. I also think a witch should find her basis and know as much as possible about it so she has a strong foundation to work off of as she not only helps others but also follows her path. Any questions please ask
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